When I did guest teaching this week, I had some students help each other in a 6th grade math class.
I reminded them, “Helping does not mean you do for them, you help them understand how to solve the math problem so they can do it for themselves. The person you’re helping needs to understand at this level in order to go to the next level.”
This is true of any helping situation.
We need to help people figure out and understand how to do things for themselves at whatever level they’re capable of instead of doing it for them.
This principle is true on both a personal level and national level.